Fatigue and frictions from wedding plannings and exhaustion after the ceremony can cause post wedding blues 
Wedding planning burn out is so real. The degree of mental, emotional and physical exhaustion each couple experience vary and how the stress tell on each one after the wedding differs. To avoid wedding planning stress, some couples engage wedding planner. If you have the money nothing stops you from engaging one 
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Some of us wished we could just escape wedding planning stress and just show up on our wedding day to enjoy the stage set by angels and our families. We actually planned our wedding by ourselves. I have come to appreciate the fact that we could sit as a team, dialogue about our reality wedding, reached agreement on what we want for our big day and what we don’t want and drop what we wanted but couldn’t afford, discuss our financial plans based on our salaries, projections for executing the wedding plans, looking out for vendors especially from our networks,back and forth on bargaining things, meetings with vendors, shopping things, and all. It was hectic and stressful at some point but then it was fun and fulfilling for me and my husband No fight and frictions at all between us. This is the same way I and my husband still sit to plan our family projects and finance and even ministry events now. It is a good skill I got from planning our wedding cos planning is a natural thing for my husband. Of course as the wedding date drew closer, tension was high and my head was full. The stress affected me, I had to use medicals.My hubby was just so at peace. I was agitated at some point. The one we had to pray, waiting on God to balance up vendors Three-days to our wedding hubby was yet to get a cow of our budget. He would call and I would feel so tensed 
What a joy when he finally got our cow two days to our wedding. 
He kept on encouraging me to enjoy the journey. Leveraging on your support system takes some stress off you. Learn how to ask for and receive help.The back and forth with managing both families around the kind of wedding to be done, fixing dates or even changing dates, managing family issues, and all can be very stressful too. My advice for about to weds, hold your partner tightly. Be in unity. It must be the two of you against the world.Aso-ebi could be a stressor. I freed myself from wahala of selecting and coordinating the sales of aso-ebi. I just couldn’t do that. No aso ebi. Some couples leave this for their friends/relatives to handle. Avoid unnecessary stress.Attending marriage counseling classes could be another stressor for some couples (honestly some churches need to have sound teachers with warm personality and a sense of humour to handle their 6Months sessions with about to weds) attending marriage counseling classes wasn’t supposed to be a pain but in some situations it is. It gives mental, psychological and emotional stress to some couples instead of helping their preparation for marriage. The preparation needed is not just to read one manual about marriage to the about-to-weds, but supposed to be soul-deep teachings, impartation and interaction. I and my husband didn’t enjoy it at all (We were always tired and mentally stressed by the tone of the teaching)Marriage counseling classes is not to fulfill all righteousness, it is a big deal. Every intending couple must see it so.I can only remember one session we had to go do with one pastor in another parish of my church. That pastor has the grace. He confronted us with the reality of marriage, he was intentional about the session, allowed us share thoughts on our journey and at the end prayed so heartily with us. We left him feeling so ready to do marriage. Make your wedding planning as fun as possible. I advise about-to-weds to engage in exciting activities during wedding planning. Have a date where you are not talking about wedding. Enjoy time together. Pray. Go to cinema. We know when to talk about planning and when to pause 
and be with each other. Some couples stopped being friends the very moment they start to plan wedding. Serious fight o. A couple splitted up all in the name of planning wedding.Fasting throughout wedding planning can be draining. How about planning your fast and prayers pretty ahead of your wedding? We stopped fasting a Month before our wedding date. We found this very helpful. Even at that I wasn’t looking chubby until pretty much later. I suggest you wrap up fasting a Month to your wedding but fully engage your spirit in prayers.Eat balanced diet.
Take a lot of water, fruits and vegetables. The bride should also go for medicals, I was placed on folic acid, multivitamins like that.Your wedding is a party for you and your spouse. I wish someone told me this. Turn your wedding into your romantic date not an event. Maximise the time to rock each other’s affection, look into each other’s eyes, hold hands, keep your focus on your spouse this will help calm you. Be mindful. Live in the present. If your emotional connection is so on point, the eagerness to be left alone and explore romance and sex would displace blues.The wedding day takes your spiritual, mental, emotional, psychological and physical energy. Some newly wedded broke down after their wedding. I told my husband I would prefer going to places after not during honeymoon. We were home for the two weeks, eating, enjoying each other, watching movies and sleeping. Either of us still fell ill later. So taking enough rest after the wedding will rejuvenate you and pump you up to handle days following your wedding.If your decision is to go for your honeymoon from your reception, make sure you do take some time to sleep. You’re adults and should be able to say no to visits from relatives and friends for some days or weeks after your wedding. Take some breaths.Having blues after your wedding resulting from Fatigue 
, rest and it will be gone.Having blues caused by frictions at the weddng? Quickly Talk to your spouse about it, forgive each other and start to rebuild affection.My name is Esther Ebunoluwa Omoniyi, I am anointed for what I do. omoniyiesther1@gmail.com
